Senior Care · Hiring Privately

How to hire a private caregiver for an elderly parent

Hiring a caregiver directly, without an agency, can mean better continuity and a lower hourly cost. It also means every step an agency would handle is now yours — including the ones families most often skip.

Tammy Gold, LCSWSecrets of the Nanny Whisperer by Tammy Gold, published by Penguin
By Tammy Gold, LCSW
Author of Secrets of the Nanny Whisperer (Penguin)
Tammy Gold, LCSW, MSW
Columbia University
20 years in childcare placement & training

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Agency or private hire?

An agency employs the caregiver, handles payroll and insurance, and sends a replacement when someone is sick. A private hire usually costs less per hour and often means one consistent person — but you become the employer, and there's no backup unless you build one.

The steps, in order

  1. Define the role — personal care, companionship, meals, medication reminders, driving, hours, and overnight needs
  2. Screen by phone — experience with your parent's needs, and how they handle resistance or confusion
  3. Check references before you interview — ideally families of older adults they've cared for
  4. Run a background check through a reputable screening provider, with written consent
  5. Hold a paid trial shift with your parent — and watch how your parent responds, not just the caregiver
  6. Put it in writing — a caregiver work agreement covering duties, hours, pay, time off, and backup
Tammy Gold, LCSW, licensed clinical social workerSecrets of the Nanny Whisperer by Tammy Gold, published by Penguin
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Guidance from a therapist who has spent 20 years helping families choose caregivers

Tammy Gold, LCSW, is the author of Secrets of the Nanny Whisperer (Penguin) and the founder of the Care Map Method™. She helps families define what a parent needs, evaluate caregivers and agencies, and set up care that lasts.

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Your responsibilities as an employer

A caregiver working in your parent's home is usually a household employee, which can bring payroll, tax, and insurance obligations. Rules vary by state — a household payroll provider or elder law attorney can confirm what applies. In California, independent caregivers can register on the state's Home Care Aide Registry; ask whether yours is.

What Tammy does with you

Book an hour and Tammy works through whichever step you’re on — with you, and where it helps, directly with your candidate.

Define the job
Duties, hours, and the kind of person your family needs — written down before you look.
Interview candidates
Tammy joins or leads the interview as a second set of eyes and ears.
Check references
Targeted calls that get past “she was great.”
Plan the trial
A structured trial shift, and a debrief on what it showed you.
Create the work agreement
Duties, schedule, pay terms, time off, and house rules in writing.
Onboard well
A first-30-days plan, set up with your new caregiver on the call.
A NEUTRAL EXPERT ON YOUR SIDE

A clinician beside your private hire

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  • Define the role around your parent's real needs
  • Join the interview and reference calls
  • Build the agreement and an introduction plan for your parent
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Tammy is not an agency and has no affiliation with, or financial interest in, any agency or caregiver you use. She provides independent guidance; decisions remain your family’s. Legal, tax, visa, and licensing questions belong with the appropriate professional or agency.