You Have a Nanny · Change

The arrangement that worked last year doesn't fit this one

A new baby. School starting. Your hours changing. A toddler becoming a child who needs something different. Most nanny relationships end not because anything went wrong, but because nobody adjusted them.

By Tammy Gold, LCSW
Author of Secrets of the Nanny Whisperer (Penguin)

Tammy Gold, LCSW, MSW

Columbia University

20 years training & managing caregivers

YOU ALREADY HAVE A CAREGIVER — THIS IS THE MANAGE STAGE

MAP

Define the need

MATCH

Choose the caregiver

MERGE

Integrate them well

MANAGE

Keep care excellent

Change is the normal case, not the exception

Families treat the nanny arrangement as fixed and then feel stuck when it stops fitting. In practice, the role should be revisited roughly every year and at every major transition — not renegotiated in crisis when something has already become unworkable.

Done deliberately, the same nanny often grows into the new role. Done late, you lose someone your child loves.

Secrets of the Nanny Whisperer by Tammy Gold, published by Penguin

FROM THE AUTHOR OF SECRETS OF THE NANNY WHISPERER

Guidance from the therapist who wrote the Penguin book on hiring a nanny

Tammy Gold, LCSW, spent years matching families with nannies before writing Secrets of the Nanny Whisperer (Penguin). Today she works beside families, and their agencies, as a neutral expert: defining the job, interviewing candidates, checking references and setting up the first 30 days.

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