Au Pair · Deciding

Is an au pair right for your family?

An au pair looks like affordable live-in childcare. It is, partly. It's also hosting a young adult from another country in your home for a year — and that second part is what families underestimate.

Tammy Gold, LCSWSecrets of the Nanny Whisperer by Tammy Gold, published by Penguin
By Tammy Gold, LCSW
Author of Secrets of the Nanny Whisperer (Penguin)
Tammy Gold, LCSW, MSW
Columbia University
20 years in childcare
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Tammy Gold, LCSW, licensed clinical social workerSecrets of the Nanny Whisperer by Tammy Gold, published by Penguin
FROM THE AUTHOR OF SECRETS OF THE NANNY WHISPERER

Guidance from the therapist who wrote the Penguin book on hiring a nanny

Tammy Gold, LCSW, spent years matching families with nannies before writing Secrets of the Nanny Whisperer (Penguin). Today she works beside families, and their agencies, as a neutral expert: defining the job, interviewing candidates, checking references and setting up the first 30 days.

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When it works well

When it tends to struggle

Infants under three months with an inexperienced au pair, children with significant medical or behavioral needs, families needing long or unpredictable hours, and households that want a professional nanny's experience at a lower price. An au pair is typically young and new to full-time childcare, and the program is designed around that.

The honest trade

You get flexible, in-home care and a relationship that can be genuinely lovely for your children. You take on homesickness, a learning curve, and the dynamics of another adult living with you. Knowing both going in is what separates good years from rematches.

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