You Have a Nanny · Communication

Most nanny problems are communication problems

The families whose nanny relationships last aren't luckier. They built a way to talk about small things before those things got big.

Tammy Gold, LCSWSecrets of the Nanny Whisperer by Tammy Gold, published by Penguin
By Tammy Gold, LCSW
Author of Secrets of the Nanny Whisperer (Penguin)
Tammy Gold, LCSW, MSW
Columbia University
20 years training & managing caregivers
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Why it breaks down

Nobody sets up a channel for ordinary feedback, so nothing gets said until a parent is frustrated enough to raise it — and by then it lands as a complaint rather than a conversation. The nanny experiences it as an ambush, and both sides get more careful with each other instead of more open.

A communication system fixes this by making feedback routine rather than exceptional.

THE SYSTEM WE BUILD
SET COMMUNICATION GUIDELINES
SCHEDULE REGULAR CHECK-INS
GIVE FEEDBACK WITH CARE
DOCUMENT & FOLLOW UP
FAMILY MEETING

What to put in place

What changes for your family

Better communication
Greater trust & reliability
Fewer misunderstandings
A stronger care team
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Set up the communication system together

Bring your nanny onto a call. Expectations land differently when they come from a neutral third party — and get agreed rather than imposed.

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