Anyone can be warm for forty-five minutes. The right questions show you how a candidate thinks when things don't go to plan — which is the job.
You're at the MATCH stage: evaluating whether a specific person fits your child's mapped needs.
Most nanny interviews are pleasant conversations that predict almost nothing. The candidate says they love children, you describe the schedule, everyone smiles. Then real life arrives: a tantrum in a parking lot, a fever decision at 2pm, a misunderstanding about screen time.
Good interviews are built backwards from those moments. They put the candidate in the situations your family will actually generate — and watch how they reason.
“Do you think safety is important?” teaches you nothing. “Walk me through your first hour alone with my kids” teaches you plenty.
The best questions come from your child's specific needs — a sensitive sleeper, a bold climber, a slow-to-warm toddler each demand different instincts.
Candidates who blame every previous employer will eventually describe you the same way. How someone narrates conflict is data.
Tammy Gold, LCSW, spent years matching families with nannies before writing Secrets of the Nanny Whisperer (Penguin). Today she works beside families, and their agencies, as a neutral expert: defining the job, interviewing candidates, checking references and setting up the first 30 days.
The screening call, the Gold Targeted Reference Check™, the three-part clinical interview, and a trial-day checklist — what to ask, and what to listen for.
Seven pages · from Tammy Gold, LCSW, author of Secrets of the Nanny Whisperer
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“The baby has cried for twenty minutes and nothing works. What do you do?” Listen for a sequence, calm, and when they'd call you. There's no perfect answer — there's organized thinking or there isn't.
Pose a real gray area: a fever at pickup time, a stranger at the door, a park injury. You're listening for where their line sits and whether communication with you is part of their instinct.
“Tell me about a time a parent corrected you. What happened next?” The answer predicts every hard conversation you'll ever have with this person.
Strong candidates interview you back — about routines, values, discipline, communication. Few or no questions is its own signal.
Interview questions work when they're anchored to a map of your child's needs:
Map first, then interview. Candidates stop blurring together because you're finally measuring them against the same clear standard.
$9.99 · Instant digital download · Created by Tammy Gold, LCSW
The complete interview toolkit lives inside the full system: screening call scripts, the clinical three-part interview, scenario prompts, reference check questions, and trial day scorecards — plus everything after the hire.
Screen many, interview few. Ten-minute screening calls can narrow a long list to two to four serious in-person interviews.
Vagueness under follow-up. Strong candidates get more specific when you dig; weak ones get more general. Blame-heavy stories about past families are a close second.
Not for the first interview — you need the candidate's full reasoning attention. The trial day is where you watch them together.
Always, and the system covers verification — but checks confirm the past. Interviews and trials predict the future. You need both.
The judgment and scenario framework transfers well; the system is built around ongoing in-home care where the stakes and depth are highest.
General guidance only goes so far when it's your family, your schedule, and this particular caregiver. A Care Map call maps what your household actually needs, then builds the screening, matching, or repair plan around it.
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