Onboarding

Your nanny's first day: a checklist for what to cover

Day one sets the tone. Plan a shorter day where you're home for at least part of it, and cover the essentials before you hand over the keys.

Tammy Gold, LCSWSecrets of the Nanny Whisperer by Tammy Gold, published by Penguin
By Tammy Gold, LCSW
Author of Secrets of the Nanny Whisperer (Penguin)
Tammy Gold, LCSW, MSW
Columbia University
20 years placing & training nannies

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Tammy Gold, LCSW, spent years matching families with nannies before writing Secrets of the Nanny Whisperer (Penguin). Today she works beside families, and their agencies, as a neutral expert: defining the job, interviewing candidates, checking references and setting up the first 30 days.

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The house

Communication

Paperwork

Complete whatever new-hire paperwork your payroll provider requires, and give her a signed copy of your work agreement.

End the day with ten minutes

Ask what was hard, what surprised her and what she needs. Then say one specific thing that went well. The rest of the first month is in the first 30 days.

Common questions

Should I stay home on the first day?

Yes, for at least part of it. Overlap lets your child see you trust her and lets you show routines rather than just describe them.

Is the first day paid?

Yes, at her full rate, including any overlap time with you.

How do I train a new nanny without micromanaging?

Show the routine once, write it down, then step back and review together at the end of the day. See managing quality without micromanaging.

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