Every December, families wonder what's customary for their nanny. Here's the common guidance, and how to make the bonus land as genuine thanks.
A holiday bonus is taxable income. If your nanny is on payroll, pay the bonus the same way, so taxes are handled correctly. See paying a nanny legally.
Tammy Gold, LCSW, spent years matching families with nannies before writing Secrets of the Nanny Whisperer (Penguin). Today she works beside families, and their agencies, as a neutral expert: defining the job, interviewing candidates, checking references and setting up the first 30 days.
Money is usually what's most appreciated. What makes it memorable is the note: a few specific sentences about what she has meant to your child this year, plus a drawing or card from the kids. A small gift alongside the bonus is a nice touch, not a substitute.
December is a natural moment for a short review: what went well, what you'd adjust, and what's ahead next year. If a raise is due, talk about it separately from the bonus. See raises and the annual review.
Be honest and kind. A smaller bonus with a heartfelt note and an extra paid day off is better than silence. Don't skip it without a word; nannies notice, and so does the relationship.
Before the holiday break, often on the last workday before time off, so she can use it for the season.
No. A bonus thanks her for the past year; a raise reflects her pay going forward.
Your nanny cares for your children every day. Most families treat her bonus separately from other holiday tips.
Bonus, review and next year's terms, handled with care.
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Tammy is not a placement agency and has no affiliation with, or financial interest in, any agency, daycare or payroll service. She provides independent expert guidance; decisions remain your family’s. Legal, tax and licensing questions belong with the appropriate professional or state agency.