You can’t be there all day, which is the point of hiring a nanny. So how do you know it’s going well? Your child, the daily details and how she talks to you will tell you most of what you need to know.
Tammy Gold, LCSW, spent years matching families with nannies before writing Secrets of the Nanny Whisperer (Penguin). Today she works beside families, and their agencies, as a neutral expert: defining the job, interviewing candidates, checking references and setting up the first 30 days.
Some problems can be fixed with a clear conversation. Others can’t. See fixable vs. personality problems and nanny red flags. If you ever believe your child is being harmed, act immediately.
A short daily handoff and a monthly sit-down make most issues small. Ask open questions: “What’s been hardest this week?” “What would make the job easier?” You’ll learn more than from any camera. See a nanny communication system.
A few weeks is common, especially for toddlers. Steady improvement is the sign to look for.
Some families do, legally and with notice. It can’t replace talking with your nanny. See nanny cams.
Usually it’s a sign of a strong bond, not a threat. See when your child prefers the nanny.
If something feels off, an hour with an expert helps you see it clearly and decide what to do.
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Screening call, reference questions, clinical interview, and trial-day checklist.
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Tammy is not a placement agency and has no affiliation with, or financial interest in, any agency, daycare or payroll service. She provides independent expert guidance; decisions remain your family’s. Legal, tax and licensing questions belong with the appropriate professional or state agency.